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from the A.A.
Grapevine
These questions were
originally published in the AA Grapevine in conjunction
with a series on the
Twelve Traditions that began in
November 1969 and ran through September 1971. While they
were originally
intended primarily for individual use,
many AA groups have since used them as a basis for wider
discussion.
Tradition One:
Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery
depends upon AA unity.
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Am I in my group a
healing, mending, integrating person, or am I divisive?
What about gossip and taking other members' inventories?
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Am I a peacemaker? Or do
I, with pious preludes such as "just for the sake of
discussion," plunge into argument?
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Am I gentle with those
who rub me the wrong way, or am I abrasive?
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Do I make competitive AA
remarks, such as comparing one group with another or
contrasting AA in one place with AA in another?
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Do I put down some AA
activities as if I were superior for not participating
in this or that aspect of AA?
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Am I informed about AA as
a whole? Do I support, in every way I can, AA as a
whole, or just the parts I understand and approve of?
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Am I as considerate of AA
members as I want them to be of me?
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Do I spout platitudes
about love while indulging in and secretly justifying
behavior that bristles with hostility?
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Do I go to enough AA
meetings or read enough AA literature to really keep in
touch?
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Do I share with AA all of
me, the bad and the good, accepting as well as giving
the help of fellowship?
Tradition Two:
For our group purpose there is but one ultimate
authority-a loving God as He may express Himself in our
group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants;
they do not govern.
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Do I criticize or do I
trust and support my group officers, AA committees, and
office workers? Newcomers? Old-timers?
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Am I absolutely
trustworthy, even in secret, with AA Twelfth Step jobs
or other AA responsibility?
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Do I look for credit in
my AA jobs? Praise for my AA ideas?
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Do I have to save face in
group discussion, or can I yield in good spirit to the
group conscience and work cheerfully along with it?
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Although I have been
sober a few years, am I still willing to serve my turn
at AA chores?
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In group discussions, do
I sound off about matters on which I have no experience
and little knowledge?
Tradition Three:
The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop
drinking.
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In my mind, do I prejudge
some new AA members as losers?
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Is there some kind of
alcoholic whom I privately do not want in my AA group?
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Do I set myself up as a
judge of whether a newcomer is sincere or phony?
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Do I let language,
religion (or lack of it), race, education, age, or other
such things interfere with my carrying the message?
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Am I over impressed by a
celebrity? By a doctor, a clergyman, an ex-convict? Or
can I just treat this new member simply and naturally as
one more sick human, like the rest of us?
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When someone turns up at
AA needing information or help (even if he can't ask for
it aloud), does it really matter to me what he does for
a living? Where he lives? What his domestic arrangements
are? Whether he had been to AA before? What his other
problems are?
Tradition Four:
Each group should be autonomous except in matters
affecting other groups or AA as a whole.
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Do I insist that there
are only a few right ways of doing things in AA?
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Does my group always
consider the welfare of the rest of AA? Of nearby
groups? Of Loners in Alaska? Of Internationalists miles
from port? Of a group in Rome or El Salvador?
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Do I put down other
members' behavior when it is different from mine, or do
I learn from it?
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Do I always bear in mind
that, to those outsiders who know I am in AA, I may to
some extent represent our entire beloved Fellowship?
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Am I willing to help a
newcomer go to any lengths-his lengths, not mine-to stay
sober?
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Do I share my knowledge
of AA tools with other members who may not have heard of
them?
Tradition Five:
Each group has but one primary purpose-to carry its
message to the alcoholic who still suffers.
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Do I ever cop out by
saying, "I'm not a group, so this or that Tradition
doesn't apply to me"?
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Am I willing to explain
firmly to a newcomer the limitations of AA help, even if
he gets mad at me for not giving him a loan?
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Have I today imposed on
any AA member for a special favor or consideration
simply because I am a fellow alcoholic?
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Am I willing to
twelfth-step the next newcomer without regard to who or
what is in it for me?
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Do I help my group in
every way I can to fulfill our primary purpose?
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Do I remember that AA
old-timers, too, can be alcoholics who still suffer? Do
I try both to help them and to learn from them?
Tradition Six:
An AA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the AA
name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest
problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from
our primary purpose.
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Should my fellow group
members and I go out and raise money to endow several AA
beds in our local hospital?
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Is it good for a group to
lease a small building?
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Are all the officers and
members of our local club for AAs familiar with
"Guidelines on Clubs" (which is available free from
GSO)?
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Should the secretary of
our group serve on the mayor's advisory committee on
alcoholism?
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Some alcoholics will stay
around AA only if we have a TV and card room. If this is
what is required to carry the message to them, should we
have these facilities?
Tradition Seven:
Every AA group ought to be fully self-supporting,
declining outside contributions.
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Honestly now, do I do all
I can to help AA (my group, my central office, my GSO)
remain self-supporting? Could I put a little more into
the basket on behalf of the new guy who can't afford it
yet? How generous was I when tanked in a barroom?
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Should the Grapevine sell
advertising space to book publishers and drug companies,
so it could make a big profit and become a bigger
magazine, in full color, at a cheaper price per copy?
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If GSO runs short of
funds some year, wouldn't it be okay to let the
government subsidize AA groups in hospitals and prisons?
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Is it more important to
get a big AA collection from a few people, or a smaller
collection in which more members participate?
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Is a group treasurer's
report unimportant AA business? How does the treasurer
feel about it?
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How important in my
recovery is the feeling of self-respect, rather than the
feeling of being always under obligation for charity
received?
Tradition Eight:
Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever
nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ
special workers.
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Is my own behavior
accurately described by the Traditions? If not, what
needs changing?
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When I chafe about any
particular Tradition, do I realize how it affects
others?
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Do I sometimes try to get
some reward-even if not money-for my personal AA
efforts?
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Do I try to sound in AA
like an expert on alcoholism? On recovery? On medicine?
On sociology? On AA itself? On psychology? On spiritual
matters? Or, heaven help me, even on humility?
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Do I make an effort to
understand what AA employees do? What workers in other
alcoholism agencies do? Can I distinguish clearly among
them?
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In my own AA life, have I
any experiences which illustrate the wisdom of this
Tradition?
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Have I paid enough
attention to the book Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions? To the pamphlet AA Tradition-How It
Developed?
Tradition Nine:
AA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create
service boards or committees directly responsible to those
they serve.
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Do I still try to boss
things in AA?
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Do I resist formal
aspects of AA because I fear them as authoritative?
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Am I mature enough to
understand and use all elements of the AA program-even
if no one makes me do so-with a sense of personal
responsibility?
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Do I exercise patience
and humility in any AA job I take?
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Am I aware of all those
to whom I am responsible in any AA job?
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Why doesn't every AA
group need a constitution and bylaws?
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Have I learned to step
out of an AA job gracefully-and profit thereby-when the
time comes?
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What has rotation to do
with anonymity? With humility?
Tradition Ten:
Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues;
hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public
controversy.
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Do I ever give the
impression that there really is an "AA opinion" on
Antabuse? Tranquilizers? Doctors? Psychiatrists?
Churches? Hospitals? Jails? Alcohol? The federal or
state government? Legalizing marijuana? Vitamins?
Al-Anon? Alateen?
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Can I honestly share my
own personal experience concerning any of those without
giving the impression I am stating the "AA opinion"?
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What in AA history gave
rise to our Tenth Tradition?
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Have I had a similar
experience in my own AA life?
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What would AA be without
this Tradition? Where would I be?
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Do I breach this or any
of its supporting Traditions in subtle, perhaps
unconscious, ways?
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How can I manifest the
spirit of this Tradition in my personal life outside AA?
Inside AA?
Tradition Eleven:
Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather
than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity
at the level of press, radio, and films.
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Do I sometimes promote AA
so fanatically that I make it seem unattractive?
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Am I always careful to
keep the confidences reposed in me as an AA member?
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Am I careful about
throwing AA names around-even within the Fellowship?
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Am I ashamed of being a
recovered, or recovering, alcoholic?
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What would AA be like if
we were not guided by the ideas in Tradition Eleven?
Where would I be?
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Is my AA sobriety
attractive enough that a sick drunk would want such a
quality for himself?
Tradition Twelve:
Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our
Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before
personalities.
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Why is it good idea for
me to place the common welfare of all AA members before
individual welfare? What would happen to me if AA as a
whole disappeared?
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When I do not trust AA's
current servants, who do I wish had the authority to
straighten them out?
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In my opinions of and
remarks about other AAs, am I implying membership
requirements other than a desire to stay sober?
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Do I ever try to get a
certain AA group to conform to my standards, not its
own?
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Have I a personal
responsibility in helping an AA group fulfill its
primary purpose? What is my part?
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Does my personal behavior
reflect the Sixth Tradition-or belie it?
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Do I do all I can do to
support AA financially? When is the last time I
anonymously gave away a Grapevine subscription?
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Do I complain about
certain AAs' behavior-especially if they are paid to
work for AA? Who made me so smart?
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Do I fulfill all AA
responsibilities in such a way as to please privately
even my own conscience? Really?
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Do my utterances always
reflect the Tenth Tradition, or do I give AA critics
real ammunition?
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Should I keep my AA
membership a secret, or reveal it in private
conversation when that may help another alcoholic (and
therefore me)? Is my brand of AA so attractive that
other drunks want it?
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What is the real
importance of me among more than a million AAs?
Reprinted from the September 1971 Grapevine
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